I am highly sensitive. Even as a child, I was told “don’t be so sensitive”. I am also a highly emotional person. Whenever I would try to confront someone, and wanted to come off as strong, I would fold into tears. Last night, this thought came to me. And it made so much sense. Maybe it will to you, maybe not. Either way is ok. But I wanted to share.
As humans, it is embedded in our DNA to need to be part of the pack. It was required for our very survival in the early ages, to be part of the tribe. So then, is this why we can let one person’s negativity or hate affect our entire day? Is there something embedded in our DNA that says WE HAVE TO BELONG OR WE’LL DIE? It makes sense to me because if our fight or flight response is still embedded in our DNA, but isn’t of as much use anymore, why wouldn’t this be? (I’ll link a video explaining more about fight or flight for those who are not familiar)
When I had this realization, it allowed me to “forgive” myself for being so sensitive; for allowing others to control how I felt about myself. It also made me realize that there are a billion-some people on the planet. I do not need to be liked and accepted by all of them. I will not die off if I am not part of every single pack. If one, or even a bunch of people don’t like me, that’s ok!! There’s billions of people on the planet and out of billions of people, you WILL find the ones that relate to you!!!! We have the beauty of the internet these days. Our ability to connect with and find others in our pack has never been greater.
My biggest takeaway from this is to never change who you are to fit in with others. Keep shining your light. Don’t betray the beauty that is YOU to please anyone else. Ever.
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